This post is dedicated to the memory of Ian Gemery, a Hanover High School junior who took his own life on Thursday, September 18.
What we do know: Though quiet, Ian had a great sense of humor and was a good student. He was a valued member of the cross country and track teams. His desire to be helpful led him to be involved in a number of volunteer activities such as Youth in Action, the local library, and the repair crew at Cover. He loved active sports such as mountain biking and ocean swimming. He also liked to create and build. But what people remember the most about Ian was his ready smile.
What we will never know: We will never know the inner turmoil that led to such a tragic act. We are reminded of how little we really know of another person
What we can do for others: This tragedy inspires us to move more kindly through the world: to smile, to say “hi” or “hey”, to offer help to one another, to reach out when a person seems troubled. We can guard against hurtful words or actions. Today, and in the days ahead, perform a RAK (Random Act of Kindness) in Ian’s memory.
What we can do for ourselves: Most importantly, we need to have a “trusted other” – whether it be a family member or a friend – with whom we can be real: someone who will listen, will sometimes urge us to talk about what is on our heart, someone who will support and not judge us. We also need to treat ourselves gently, to put less pressure on ourselves – to stop before we are overwhelmed.
Rest in peace, Ian. You will be sadly missed.
© Dorothy C. Judd
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