“What’s the magic word?” we ask children. And they say “please” or “thank you” because we’ve trained them well. As the years pass, we add other words of common courtesy: you’re welcome; excuse me; sorry. These words become automatic but hopefully sincere.
Then as adults we face difficult situations and sometimes stutter and stammer over what to say.
Unlikely as it may seem, it was from watching NYPD Blue that I learned that when someone has suffered the death of a friend or relative, it isn’t necessary to be profound or brilliant. “I’m sorry for your loss,” about says it all.
Likewise when someone is ill, even seriously ill, or dealing with a difficult situation, instead of waiting to come up with what I call a “grand gesture,” there is comfort in saying, “I’m thinking of you.”
I’ll leave the most magical words of all –love and love you— for a future post. 🙂
© Dorothy C. Judd
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